1. Whatever was not from the beginning should not be now:
The greatest danger that modern marriages face is to impose modern interpretation to ancient text. Many people are modifying ancient foundational principles of marriage for present day convenience. If you really want lasting marriages as Christians, then remember whatever was not from the beginning shouldn’t be now. One day the Pharasees asked Jesus Christ a question about divorce and He answered “in the beginning, it was not so…”
2. Who you marry matters more than when you marry:
Don’t allow competitiveness to push you into marrying the wrong person. There is no set time for marriage. It’s better to wait until the right person shows up rather than settle for less in haste. The number one secret to lasting marriages is choosing the right person. In fact, it is the most important gift you can give your children. Be the right person and choose the right person.
3. Marrying the right person does not guarantee success in marriage; doing the work does:
Even marriages of the right couple can fail and do fail because they are too lazy to work on the marriage. You must be willing to work as a couple to last in the relationship. You must be willing to respect each other, submit yourselves one to another, forgive each other, serve each other and be loyal to each other.
4. Love does not fortify marriage against divorce:
Don’t be fooled by I love you, I miss you, I can’t wait to see you. Every divorced couple once upon a time loved each other, missed each other, couldn’t wait to see each other. Beyond loving each other, discuss key issues like role play, cash, coupling, conflict management; develop communication skills, and keep working on you.
5. Beware that though God hates divorce; divorce is an option for many:
Don’t let anybody deceive you that divorce is not an option. Divorce is and has always been an option. Let us be guided and work on catching the little foxes that destroy the tender grapes of the vine of love.
6. Marriage is like see-saw! Whatever you are seeing now is what you saw then and ignored:
Whatever you are ignoring now is what you will be seeing tomorrow. Many of us make silly excuses for obvious red- flags because we think we are in love, when the honeymoon is over you will regret what you saw and ignored. Think! If there are any bad and inappropriate attitudes, talk though them now!
God bless and give you a wonderful marriage. May you never regret making this choice. Love and serve each other with grace. Bless you!
