Malachi 2:14-16 KJV — “Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. [15] And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit.”
“And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. [16] For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.“
God hates divorce and the putting away of your wife; in fact, God hates break up after you have had sex; BUT it’s often the only option available to a couple that refuse to soften and compromise. Some partners are so strong-willed and heady that it’s so difficult to settle a matter between them.
None of them seem to agree to compromise for the other. The truth is, love and relationships are often about being able to compromise and forgive. When two people raised in different backgrounds relate closely they are bound to hurt each other; we must learn to compromise and forgive each other daily.
As long as there is that mutual recognition, love, and respect; we must learn to yield and forgive. If you are doing something that is hurting the relationship, you must be willing to stop; besides, if you have been offended by some things, you must be willing to forgive and rebuild.
God hates divorce but Moses permitted divorce because the couples were hardened and unwilling to compromise stands and forgive.
Matthew 19:3-12 KJV — “The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? [4] And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,”
[5] “and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? [6] Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. [7] They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?”
[8] “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. [9] And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
[10] “His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. [11] But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. [12] For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven‘s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.:
Let us learn to compromise and forgive each other more often and in time to make modern marriages work. Let us love and respect each other. Let the offending partner repent and the offended partner forgive. It will take compromise and forgiveness to make most marriages work.
Remember, we are a team and not players. We all bring on board the good, the bad, and the ugly. There are things you do wrong and there are things you do right. Apologize when you are wrong and talk less, don’t drag the issues when you are right.
Stay blessed
